This week life didn’t go the way I planned. I was sick. Whilst I didn’t want to down tools and just relax – I had to – illness does that to you. It took me a few days to really get into it (I was still trying to go to the Supermarket on day one) after a while I really learned to like rest. It got me wondering why there was so much resistance to resting. Why was being productive so alluring?
there will be plenty of time to sleep once you are dead – Benjamin Franklin (a very tired man)
Rest is not lazy
I was watching a workshop called Sacred Rest by Inspirational Blogger Christy Tending – when I realised that whilst I really believe in Self-Care and Rest, I do have a few ‘Rest is lazy‘ demons. No wonder I was still trying to go out shopping on day one of my sickness bug. Christy made me realised that rest is healing (even though I knew this and insist my daughter gets lots of sleep to grow and heal) but it’s almost like I needed permission to let my guard down. I fell asleep a little whilst I was watching this (I re watched it) but I know Christy won’t mind!
Numbing or Resting
This is a difficult one for me – I love a Netflix’s binge as much as the next kid but does this count as rest? Is it by it’s nature restorative and revigorating or are we just numbing out, parking our brains elsewhere, and eating Haribos by the bag to boot! If you think you’re wandering off course this article is great. I think there’s a need to be intentional about rest and to do it in a mindful way rather than zoning out. Can you mindfully watch 6 series of Modern Family or am I kidding myself?
I find scheduling in me-time/self care time stressful and pressured
Anything that you feel like you have to do feels pressured and self care is no exception. They all seem to begin and end with hot baths and reading books – but is there anything beyond this?. Also, as a mum – I find it really hard to get time to shave my legs, never mind go to a Spa. This great article is brilliant for anyone struggling with time but is especially great for mums . It’s about finding in-the-moment self care.
Rest is unproductive
When I first started work – people took a good full hour for lunch. A lot of the time this was in the pub! People were a lot more relaxed around taking breaks and because technology wasn’t portable or even that quick – it was a real break. We now take just 29 minutes lunch break per day and I bet for a lot of people they don’t take any. Our old friend FOMO is also rearing it’s ugly head too! Rest is productive – you are more productive after a break than you were before but we still feel we’re too busy to stop. Perhaps the more worrying thing about this is that we value productivity above our own health and emotional needs. Amazing Superhero – Andrea Scher, tells us why the law of least effort often gets the results we want. A concentrated, mindful effort at the right time is more productive. It’s not about doing more but doing the right things at the right time. Andrea says this is great because she doesn’t know when to stop as she hasn’t cultivated a voice in her head who says “It’s okay. You’ve done enough for today”. Familiar?
Surely to move towards a place where we can really rest we have to acknowledge :
- That we are worthy.
- That rest is good
- That we are more productive when we are mindful and have rested
On that note – there’s only one thing for it ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ